The benefits of being alone whether you are introvert or extrovert

There is a joke which does the rounds regularly on social media that goes a bit like this: I saw a guy at Starbucks today, no phone, no tablet, no laptop, just sitting there, drinking coffee. Like a psychopath.

It’s a joke with a not too subtle element of social commentary about it. It seems that the notion of simply enjoying your own company has become such an alien concept in today’s digitally saturated worlds that those who do decide to simply ‘drink coffee’ are now seen as somehow counter-culture.

And yet spending time alone has huge benefits for our overall well-being.

For a start, being alone means that you are not under pressure to conform to a group or compromise your choices. Being alone means connecting with yourself and also the world around you because you see everything on your own terms.

For people who are naturally introverted, being alone can relieve a lot of pressure as they don’t feel anxious about engaging with others. At the same time it can also be a great way of building confidence and self-esteem. You don’t have to rely on the approval of others and you will need to be confident in making decisions for yourself. This can also make you more resilient and lessen fear about decision-making.

If you have a more extroverted and impulsive personality, being alone may be a good way to curb those impulsive tendencies. Spending time alone teaches us to evaluate and weigh things up, meaning we are less likely to rush into things.

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How to Write A Best-Selling Self-Help Book

Self-help books are a top-selling niche and one where there’s always room for a new voice to offer perspective. However it can be difficult to stand out from the crowd in a market that’s so popular. Here are some excellent tips for writing a self-help book that really sells and is distinctive in the best possible way.

Be authentic

This may sound rather obvious but when you’re drafting your subject, make sure it’s something you genuinely know about. You don’t need to be a qualified professional but personal experience of the subject matter is vital. If you’re only repeating content you’ve learnt from elsewhere your writing will lack conviction and depth. By being authentic and offering the audience something that’s deeply meaningful, you’ll instantly be head and shoulders above those who are simply trying to cash in.

You don’t need to impress

There can often be an almost unconscious need to try and impress the reader by wowing them with your writing prowess. Forget about that. The fact that the reader has picked up your book is praise enough. Instead, treat them like your best friend and talk to them in the same way. This will create a confidence that’s irresistible.

Deliver what the title promises

People pick up self-help books because the title speaks to a need they have within. As the author you have a duty to deliver on what’s being hinted at, and by offering practical and legitimate solutions. Before you start writing make a list of what these solutions are, and craft your book around delivering these answers.

Checking out other self-help books can be a great way to see what works and what doesn’t, as well as getting your own assistance and inspiration. Check out www.upbeatee.com for lots of online books and uplifting content that you can enjoy whenever the mood strikes.